Being a people-pleaser is not who you really are.
It's simply a habit that you picked up in order to feel worthy, safe, loved, & belong.
But is IS costing you your peace, energy, time, truth, and your well-being.
On the other side of CHOOSING to be the Boundary Queen of your life...
Exists an entirely new reality that is available & SO POSSIBLE for you...that you can choose to step into, right NOW.
What if...
- You could lovingly put yourself FIRST, without feeling guilty or afraid of hurting people's feelings...
- You stopped taking responsibility for others feelings and reclaimed your emotional sovereignty, inner peace, hearts desires & needs...
- You stopped avoiding conflict like the plague and actually spoke your truth with love...
- You no longer sacrificed your precious time, life-force energy, money, attention, etc in order to gain love, self-worth, approval, validation or a sense of belonging...
- You lovingly said "NO" to things that aren't a full body "YES" and reclaimed your precious life-force energy for the things that actually light up your SOUL...
- You stopped over-giving your precious energy, time, attention, money, etc. and unapologetically put yourself FIRST, so that you could overflow to the people you LOVE...
- You learned how to gauge & meet your own needs & desires, while asking for what you need without guilt & shame...
- By respecting yourself & drawing loving boundaries, you gave others the opportunity to also treat you with the love & respect that is your birthright...
- You stopped hiding, shrinking & playing small in order to fit in, & courageously, unapologetically SHINED as your most sparkly, radiant self...
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You prioritized taking pristine care of the most important person in your life - YOURSELF!
It is ALL possible for you.
In fact, it's your motherf*cking BIRTHRIGHT.
If this resonated with you in any way...I believe you were divinely guided here ON PURPOSE.
This mini-course, People Pleasing to Boundary Queen, is for YOU.
Hi, I’m Melissa.
For most of my life, I struggled with people pleasing.
I sacrificed my energy, heart, time, truth, and inner peace to make sure that everyone around me was happy..
...EXCEPT FOR ME.
After years of feeling drained, resentful, unworthy of meting my own wants & needs...
All I wanted was to feel like I belonged, to be loved, and to feel good enough...
I knew there HAD to be a better way.
So I decided to go on a 5-year journey of deep self-love, reclaiming my inner power, and becoming the Boundary Queen of my life...
After experiencing my own POWERFUL inner transformation and then coaching many women just like you to do the same...
My inner peace became UNSHAKEABLE, my self-confidence & trust skyrocketed, and I felt like I had truly unlocked a hidden superpower that had ALWAYS been within me...
and I became the Boundary Queen of my Life.
WHO IS THE BOUNDARY QUEEN?
The Boundary Queen within you knows that in order for others to honor her boundaries, she must meet & honor them herself first.
She speaks her truth with love, from her heart. She knows that when she does this, she cannot go wrong.
She doesn't take responsibility for anyone's feelings except her own.
Because she knows that the can't control how others feel, or whether or not they like her. She loves herself and likes herself first.
She knows she is worthy of receiving her hearts desires, and that her needs are worthy of being met.
She knows the goal is not perfection.
However she intentionally makes small, yet powerful choices every day to honor herself with love, meet her own wants & needs above all else, and speaks her truth from her heart with love.
Her inner peace is a priority -- she is focused on building a solid foundation of self-love & respect that NOTHING can take away from her.
In my years of supporting women end the habit of people-pleasing & becoming the Boundary Queen of their lives...
I discovered that there are 6 People Pleasing Archetypes that we play out to feel loved, safe, & belonging:
- The Conflict Avoider - conflict makes you wanna die a little bit so you smile and sacrifice yourself...
- The "Yes" Girl - the version of you who says "yes" when you really want to say "no"...
- The Martyr - trying to feel worthy by doing everything for everyone, but resentful when your efforts aren't reciprocated...
- The Giver - over-giving your time, energy, money, attention, to get something in return, or to the point of exhaustion...
- The Chameleon - dimming yourself, hiding, or playing small to fit in and feel like you belong...
- The Pedestaler - putting others wants & needs above yours, because deep down you don't feel worthy of your wants & needs...that others matter more than you...
Can you relate?
If you answered "yes", I created a free mini-course for people-pleasers like you...
People Pleasing to Boundary Queen is a 6 day mini-course that takes you through each of these habits and gives you the exact tools & practices you need to transform into your most powerful version of you: The Boundary Queen.
WHAT IT IS:
A 6-day video training (previously recorded) full of so much valuable information from my years of experience healing this habit within myself, and guiding amazing souls in my private coaching practice.
For each of the 6 People Pleasing Archetypes, you'll learn the exact tools & practices you need to transform:
Day 1: The Conflict Avoider to the Courageous Queen
Day 2: The "Yes" Girl to the loving NO
Day 3: The Martyr to the Healthy Mother
Day 4: The Giver to the Self Care Queen
Day 5: The Chameleon to the Super-Freak
Day 6: BONUS Archetype: The Pedestaler to the Queen of your Heart & how to embody your inner Boundary Queen 👑🔥
In this self-led, 6 video mini course, you'll receive:
- The exact tools I use & teach my clients to liberate yourself from the habit of people pleasing, take back your power, build massive courage & confidence to speak your truth with love, honor & respect yourself, and communicate your boundaries in a way that feels authentic to who you really are as a feminine, heart-centered being.
- Lifetime access to all 6 powerful video modules covering each of the 6 People Pleasing Archetypes and how to transform into the powerful version of them
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Powerful heart-work assignments you can apply to your life RIGHT NOW for results
- Bonuses & add-ons in the future
- Invitation to apply for my signature, 4-Month Feminine Empowerment Private Coaching Program, Worthy Woman Blueprint. (The material of this mini-course is a bonus inside Worthy Woman Blueprint!)
It’s time to take courageous action towards living as your most empowered, worthy, authentic self who's free from the habit of people pleasing and shows up as the loving BOUNDARY QUEEN of her life!
STUDENT RESULTS
"My habit of people pleasing before felt like it wasn't a habit, it was something I had no control over. That my worth was dependent on how "happy" everyone was around me. I realize now that isn't true. By people pleasing I was giving away my power and trying to control situations that I really had no control over. Setting myself up and others for disappointment and unreasonable expectations. The biggest win is protecting my time, energy, and nervous system so that when I'm giving to others it comes from a genuine place."
Tara, 35
"Before this program, I was showing up for others before I chose to show up for myself. I was allowing for others to treat me less than I am worth because I didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings. This program taught me healthy ways to learn how to put myself first, set firm boundaries around things that do not align with me and show up as myself again. I had lost touch with the truest part of myself but I now know so deeply that I am worthy, just because I am."
Sophia, 29
I know I have a big heart, but I didn't realize people-pleasing was taking away from my own energy and light that I could share with others. After this course, I'm proud that I know now I need to spend time with myself in order to be my best self for those around me."
Darby, 27
It is my mission to empower you with this potent wisdom with tools, practices, and teachings that you can apply to your life RIGHT NOW and activate your inner power!
